What’s New

May 18, 2021

In honour of Israeli BPD Awareness Month: Mini-Conference on “The State of Treatment Options and Clinician Attitudes to BPD in the State of Israel”

May 4, 2021

Lecture on Living in the Shadow of Borderline Personality Disorder in honor of Israeli BPD Awareness Month given in collaboration with Ezer Mizion, The Department for Mental Health, Mercaz Yeutz le-Mishpachot, Jerusalem

החיים בצל הפרעת אישיות גבולית מרכז ייעוץ למשפחות ירושלים

May

Launch of Israeli BPD Awareness Month in conjuction with BPD Awareness Month in the United States of America

April 25, 2021

Spoke to the Mental Health Department at KeepOlim on the Myths and Facts about Borderline Personality Disorder and Its Treatment.

March 18, 2021

Spoke to the DBT Consultation Group at AmiTEAM about the Israeli NEABPD and its programs.

March 7, 2021

Spoke to Shalva Schneider, LCSW, the Director and her staff at Jewessence on the Myths and Facts about Borderline Personality Disorder and Its treatment.

February 22, 2021

Workshop on “How We Teach Radical Acceptance to Family Members in Family Connections” (5) presented by Chaya Leiba Kobernick, PsyD, and Meshulam Gotlieb, MA, at the annual Israeli Association for Cognition and Behavioral Psychotherapy conference.

January 2021

A blogpost entitled “A Review of Marsha’s Memoir” by Yoray Barak, an Israeli NEABPD member, was published at “British Isles DBT Training.” As he writes “When I came across countless examples of her stringent demands from therapists, I was strengthened by the sense that she had brewed into the declared elements of therapy another spiritual component, whose function is motivational. It is about strengthening therapists in the fight against hopelessness. It is to courageously dare to try again and again, patient as caregiver, and row together in one boat on the way to a safe shore.  She urges us to recognize the greatness and sanctity of the role we play, the role for which we have volunteered. We may be the last thread that binds someone to life.” May all clinicians be endowed with the strength and ability to show such great dedication to their patients!

November 30, 2020

A Zoom book reading and lecture in honor of Nefashot’s Mental Health Week. We will be reading An Umbrella for Alex (Rachel Rashkin-Shoot, Psy.D.), a children’s book that  teaches parents how to talk to their kids about a spouse or co-parent’s mental health. Our guest speaker will be Dr. Martha Bockian, PhD. This event will also launch a mini-campaign to raise funds to translate the book into Hebrew.

November 24, 2020

Third Knesset Meeting

November 4, 2020

Article in The Jerusalem Post (November 4, 2020): “Struggles with Mental Illness Amid the Aliyah Dream” by Alan Rosenbaum detailing the events that precipitated the founding of the Israeli NEABPD.

Does talking about mental illness help? Here is a letter that I received a few days after this article was published. This article may very well have changed this young man’s life!

Dear Meshulam, We were once together …. do you remember us? Our son, has OCD. We saw you[r] interview in the Jerusalem Post last week, so it reminded me. Would you be so kind as to contact me? We are still struggling here, your article is helping me to reach out…I would like to discuss what you know about treatment options, as what we are doing is clearly not enough lately. Thank you very much.

I spent two hours talking with her and gave her much needed hope and new treatment avenues to explore.

October 15-November 2, 2020

Meetings at Knesset w/ MK Kati Shitrit and Former MK Idit Silman Regarding Creation of Mental Health Lobby in Knesset, with especial focus on Suicide Prevention

הזמנה – השדולה לבריאות הנפש ולמניעת אובדנות

October 2020

Launch of Monthly Zoom Series in Hebrew (on the first Tuesday of every month) entitled “Living in the Shadow of BPD” for Members of What’s App Group named “BPD Family”.

March-October 2020: In the Shadow of COVID 19

During this period we completed two Family Connections groups on Zoom and launched four more (two in Hebrew and two in English). In late December, we plan to launch an additional two Hebrew Zoom classes. In addition, we kept in touch with FC graduates via What’s App, and we conducted an ever-increasing number of phone and Zoom peer-to-peer counselling calls with both sufferers and family members.

Summarizing her experience in the Zoom course, one alumna wrote us an unsolicited poem that began, “Even though we never met face-to-face, I feel like we really know one another….”

למרות שלא נפגשנו פנים אל פנים

ההרגשה היא שכן אנו מכירים.

מכיון שהמצב הוא ככה

לכבוד השנה החדשה ברכה שלוחה.

שתשפ”א תהי טובה מתש”פ

שיהיה לנו רק טוב – ממש.

שיתמלאו משאלות לבכם לטובה

ושתהי אחלה שנה.

Another veteran alumna reminded us that it is not what the Israeli NEABPD does during this period that defines us, it is what we did before this period even began. She wrote us at the end of the first lockdown saying, “I felt obligated to [write to] say thank-you, I was in your DBT [sic] course [that began about one year ago], we learned about Borderline Personality Disorder. Now, after the Corona, after being [trapped at home] with the sufferer for a month and a half….Managing the situation with the DBT tools we learned helped me to survive the period without suffering and fear, the approach was appropriate for the illness …. I acted differently based on the knowledge I accrued in the course. You helped me alot. You are a shaliach mitzvah [conduit of Divine blessing] for families coping with this illness.”

שלום וברכה

מרגישה חובה להגיד תודה , שמי א.ה., הייתי בקורס DBT , למדנו על הפרעת אישיות גבולית.

עכשיו אחרי הקורונה, להיות חודש וחצי עם חולה (למדתי על המחלה בקורס).

ההתנהלות לפי הלימוד של  הDBT  עזר לי לעבור את התקופה בלי סבל ופחד , הסגנון היה מותאם למחלה , … אני נהגתי אחרת מכח הידע שרכשתי בקורס.

עזרת לי מאוד ,

אתה שליח מצווה למשפחות ה[מ]תמודדות עם המחלה.

January 2020

Speaking before the staff of Clalit’s Outpatient Program at the Talbiyeh Center for Mental Health about the Family Connections Program

November 2019

Speaking before the staff of Harei Yehuda-Tsur Haddasah Riding Therapy Program

October 2019

Speaking before the staff at Hadassah Ein Karem Hospital’s Eating Disorders Unit (In-Patient and Out-Patient) on “The DBT Basics of Family Connections and Their Application to the Families of Eating Disorder Sufferers”

April 2019

Speaking before an audience of 400 clinicians at The Israeli Society for Community Mental Health conference on the topic: “Coping with BPD in the Family and Empowering Family Members through DBT.”

תכנית יום עיון הפרעות אישיות

מכתב תודה למר משולם גוטליב על השתתפות ביום עיון

March 25, 2019

Presentation to hot-line staff about identifying and understanding the impact of BPD at the Jerusalem branch of Magen. See the following letter of thanks: מכתב תודה למשולם גוטליב

March 16, 2019

In collaboration with the Vaad Tarbut BK Feigenson and the Meyerhoff Community Center, the Israeli NEABPD screened “My Mom Is Not Crazy” in Bet Shemesh to an audience of over one-hundred people and followed up the screening with a conversation with the film’s director, R. Mordechai Vardi.

Meshulam Gotlieb & R. Mordechai Vardi

March 15, 2019

The Israeli NEABPD is running in the Jerusalem Marathon for the second year in a row. For last year’s run, see March 2018 below. This year’s marathon takes place on March 15, 2019. To join our team or sponsor a runner, click on the following link: https://my.israelgives.org/en/campaign/NEABPDJerusalemMarathon2019

Pictures of Marathon Day!

February 2019

Presentation to clinicians as part of the Boston Child Study Center (BCSC) DBT Training Session at the Geha Mental Health Center. The presentation introduced the clinicians to the NEABPD, Israel’s work with family members, offered a family member’s perspective on living alongside BPD, and explained how DBT skills can also help family members to cope and even enhance the quality of their lives.

January, February, March 2019

Three presentations to ESRA counselors in Netanya to familiarize them with our work, BPD and its treatment options, and DBT.

October 2018

In collaboration with Nefashot, the Israeli NEABPD kicked off mental health week with a special screening of “My Mom Is Not Crazy” on October 11, 2018 at the Association of Americans and Canadians in Israel (AACI) in Jerusalem. The heroine of the film, Amira Raanan, gave an inspiring and informative talk and engaged the audience after the screening. (This event also doubled as the first of our well-established, monthly, Family Connections alumnae/i meetings!)

June 2018

As part of the international NEABPD family, our courses are advertised on the American NEABPD website.

https://www.borderlinepersonalitydisorder.com/a-new-psycho-education-skills-and-support-group-for-family-members-of-those-suffering-from-borderline-personality-disorder-and-severe-emotional-dysregulation-is-opening-soon/#more-214250

May 2018 

Presentation at Milam, Jerusalem “Breaking Through Stigma” Event reported in Local Press

“One family member [who spoke]….has learned in his journey to make lemonade out of lemons. Dedicated to helping his daughter he learned DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) skills, which helped him tremendously in coping with his own situation and now he is sharing what he has learned with other parents [and other family members] through a group called the NEA.BPD [a non-profit organization that he co-founded].”

March 2018

As part of the international NEABPD family, we also receive exposure on the American NEABPD website. Check out the following link about the Jerusalem Marathon (including the letter below): https://www.borderlinepersonalitydisorder.com/dear-family-and-friends-of-the-neabpd-israel/#more-212059

Dear Family and Friends,

I have decided to run in the Jerusalem marathon this year (March 9, 2018) to support the Israeli NEABPD – The National Educational Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder, Israel.

Over the last year and a half in the IDF, I have run thousands of kilometers in full combat dress, but these kilometers will hold a special place in my heart. As I run up and down the hills of the city where I was born, the city of David and Solomon, of the Holy Temple, my heart will beat to the rhythm of Jewish history.

At the same time, my heart will also beat for those suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Those, like my sister, who suffer from BPD run a marathon every day, struggling with their emotions and battling their fears, as they strive to lead a life worth living. Tragically, ten percent of those sufferers end their own lives. Many others lead exceedingly difficult lives burdened by their enduring pain, emotional dysregulation, and deficit in relationship skills. Compounding this is a devastating stigma that often leads to inadequate treatment and care. As my family has learned, with appropriate care and support, however, BPD sufferers and their families’ lives can be changed.

My parents along with mental health professionals and other family members of BPD sufferers established the Israeli NEABPD to help both the family members and the sufferers. Having witnessed the effect of the disorder on the various members of our own family, my parents felt that it was crucial to help other parents and family members obtain the necessary knowledge, skills, and support so that they could effectively help themselves and their loved ones. By helping family members “put on their oxygen masks first,” the Israeli NEABPD empowers family members, helping them understand and better cope with the challenges they face, so that they can improve the quality of their own lives and so that they can advocate effectively for their loved ones. Please help me, help all of them.

With all my heart,

Netanel